It's so disturbing that you equate women being "co-leaders or independent agents in a relationship" to "disrespect and insubordination."

If a man is incapable of staying "healthy and motivated" by being an equal, the problem isn't his partner. It's him.

Having the final decision, after considering his wife's opinion, is the attitude that is causing women's rights to regress. But by the sounds of this piece (that is just projecting without any sources), that's exactly what you're aiming for.

This is sick. Get some help.